I have rules for my child. I don't have a lot of them, but I definitely have rules. I think that you should have rules, too. I think my approach to raising my child in an environment that has uneven borders, yet an understood expectation allows her to be creative and productive.
So what are the rules? I have a set of guidelines, some hard fast rules, and some rules that could be negotiated based on the circumstances. Why allow negotiations? Well, fostering a child's belief in the self is invaluable. Who am I to say that what she is thinking about a particular situation is invalid? I welcome her argument. Communication is beautiful, and all too often parents forget that communication is more than barking orders.
Okay, the rules:
I expect my child to be respectful. She is to have manners. She is to have courtesy and respect for others. Does this mean she must be a pushover when another little kid doesn't have manners? No. She is expected to say something to that child and figure it out.
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